Did you see the mean obituary floating around on the internet from a Minnesota family?
Until now, I had not seen anything like it. At first, I found the obit amusing because it was so unusual. After 24 hours, I have come to my senses.
Writing a Mean Obituary is Bad Judgment
Writing an obituary is hard. Using an obituary to send an ugly message is bad judgment on many fronts. Here are a few reasons:
- The act of dying is a teaching moment. Likewise, caring for our dead is a teaching moment too.
- Obituary notices are viewed as a legal notices to the general public. Future generations need a clean slate.
- Writing a hurtful obituary breaches the Golden Rule
- Wishing another person damnation violates simple Christianity teachings
- Bearing a false statement (even in an obit) breaks the 10 Commandments
Should You Criticise the Drafter?
Of course writing a mean obituary is an easy trap to fall into. Usually, these types of notices are written a few days after a person’s death. Death inspires emotion, good and bad. Unfortunately, an unclear mind led to bigger problems.
To prevent this issue, I like the idea of using this example to inspire others to draft their own obituaries. I get it, it sounds morbid. But really, it is an opportunty to reflect and set future goals. If it helps, call it a Legacy Letter.
Either way, it is a sure way to avoid a mean obituary and reduce stress for our family.
Elements of a Happy Obituary
Writing a happy obituary means shooting for a Grimmy Award. For those wishing to take on this exercise, here are a few tips:
- Use a youthful picture,
- Include a name, maiden nam, and nick name,
- Identify a birthday and date of death,
- Reference children by their first name,
- Limit grandchildren to a number.
- Embed a catch phrase used by the deceased,
- Express talents and joys,
- Describe what the deceased gave to others,
- Include a reference to their military service, and
- Make reference to a final resting place